Blog 27: Connections

Oftentimes, we fail to realize the way we feel about one person will never correlate with how we feel about another. Every person is different. Therefore, every connection we make will be different too. This isn’t to say that both connections aren’t worthwhile connections, they’re just different. Perhaps that's okay? Maybe we’re supposed to feel differently in some relationships versus others. Maybe it not only depends on the person but the place and the timing- maybe the way you feel about someone depends on you- on who you are and what phase of your life you’re currently in. I believe that you can hold a lot of love and empathy for everyone in your life. However, while it can be the same amount of love, it may feel different. Suppose you’re in love with someone and you’re completely infatuated and consumed with compassion for that person, and you feel good. In fact, you feel more than good- you feel wonderful. And you’ve experienced this wonderful feeling in the past but not to the same degree or at the same level. Even in this relationship, nothing will diminish the one you were in before, nor the feelings you held for that person. It’s just different. Every human is unique. We all have our own interests, hobbies, passions, flaws, etc. You will never feel the same connection with one person as you will with another. Maybe something similar? Something may seem familiar? Though, the connection will be different. And, honestly, I find that beautiful. A sense of intimacy comes from being able to develop a connection with each individual in your life, and feeling connected to them each in your own way. There will be a piece of everyone you love in you always. We meet people for a reason. Some part of us never stops loving someone we’ve loved, amicably or romantically. You can love everyone differently. What a wonderful thing that is.