Healing is not linear. There’s no time frame on healing. Everyone heals at different rates. For some people healing is quick while others it’s more of a drawn out process. Give yourself as much time as you need to properly heal. There will be days where you wake up and feel as though your heart has finally found its new shape and healed its wounds. But there can also be days when it seems like you are going backwards and the hurt has returned. Truth be told, healing occurs in phases. It's a process (a lengthy one). You advance. You discover aspects and parts of yourself that make you uncomfortable, but with time you figure out how to overcome them, and so on. We aren’t ever actually void of the experience, or the memory of the things have affected us. Healing takes a lifetime. We gradually come to understand how the memory affects us. We let these feelings pass through us. We learn to not let this convince us that this part of learning has been for nothing. We remind ourselves of how far we’ve come and try to show some compassion for ourselves because at the end of the day, we are only human. And we have to keep believing in our growth, even if we cannot feel it. Sometimes growth is silent and sometimes growth is subtle, but a lack of visibility or acknowledgment does not mean that progress is not being made. Your worth is not measured solely by how loud your wins are. I hope you learn to grow out of the habit of glossing over your wins just because you don't think they're significant enough, impactful enough, or deserving of applause because everything you do IS enough. Someday, you’re going to heal. and then you will see that you’ve always deserved better than the people who have hurt you, and that’s why you needed to let them go.
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