Personally, I genuinely believe that it doesn't matter how you got to this point as long as you're happy. If you had to stop communicating with pessimistic individuals, that is entirely acceptable. If prioritizing yourself over others allowed you to persist and ultimately find happiness, I am so glad you made that choice. You deserve to be happy. All the time. You deserve to find joy in even the slightest, insignificant things, and you should only be among individuals who uplift you. Leaving does not imply that you didn’t love. Sometimes the absence of joy in which we experience around others indicates that the relationship is unhealthy and not meant to be. You are entitled to putting yourself first; choosing yourself over another person does not equate to selfishness. Allow yourself to love and support that person from a distance. With distance comes clarity. Free yourself from all the things that don’t contribute to your happiness and well-being. I know this world can be a little much at times, and it wears you down, but even here you are free to let go of those things and people who no longer fit you. I am a very strong believer that whoever is meant to be in your life will always gravitate back towards you, regardless of how far they wander. Allow yourself to distance from those who weigh heavy on your soul, you’ll realize a lot. Familiar doesn’t mean forever, prioritize yourself. You deserve to feel your best. Don’t let anyone take that away from you. People frequently perceive any act of improving oneself as selfish if it involves leaving another person or a place. But in my opinion, leaving a circumstance or a relationship when one is unhappy is beneficial for both parties. Only by stepping outside of your comfort zone can you begin to grow. Finding happiness and becoming a stronger, confident individual only happens when you do what is right for oneself. You are choosing to concentrate on what you deserve by making the righteous choice to leave. You are your one constant. You will always be reliant on yourself. People come and people go. Being content with who you are and where you are in life is a prerequisite for making the most of it. Focus on you. You are not selfish for putting yourself first.
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