Two Lanes Posts

Oftentimes, we fail to realize the way we feel about one person will never correlate with how we feel about another. Every person is different. Therefore, every connection we make will be different too. This isn’t to say that both connections aren’t worthwhile connections, they’re just different. Pe

We, as humans, in today’s modern society are surrounded by norms in which everyone’s obsessed with comparison and are fueled by jealousy. This has led to a toxic mindset about productivity. There’s this counter-productive nature that comes with our desire to be productive all the time. Our obsession

Lately, I’ve found myself stuck.   More specifically, stuck in my head. I’m unable to write and finish my thoughts out in the way I typically do. And with this, I’m unable to figure out why I’m in this position. I typically try to figure these things out myself. But now Monday is upon us and I have

Love is all around you. You are surrounded by love. Love is watching the people around you love. Love is having people that you can trust and rely on. Friends are love. Love can look like a lot of different things and it can take on many different forms. You don’t have to be in love to feel love. Lo

My thoughts lately have been centered around life and everything it has to offer. All of it adds up to one full life. Finding happiness in all seemingly small things is crucial because they equate to so much. Things may seem fleeting and insignificant, but they have profound meaning, whether they ar

Despite my best intentions, I have learnt not to fight for people who aren't interested in staying in my life. You can’t force someone to stick around forever, no matter how hard you try. People come and people go. That’s how things are going to be. Now what you choose to do with those who stay, tha

Sometimes beautiful people come into your life for only a season at a time, simply to show you that good people exist. They come to remind you that love is worth fighting for, that there are people in this world who will see you for who you truly are. They come to teach you how to love yourself, to

There’s this misconception about how you always have to know your next step or what you want to achieve. Recently I’ve started to realize that I am constantly stuck in this place, in between my future and my past and I'm not sure which one I want more. Most of the time, part of me just wants to thro

Sometimes I catch myself being ashamed of how much I've cared for people, but then I have to remind myself that they lost someone who cared, not me. Caring- it's typically difficult for idiosyncratic individuals to admit because caring is being vulnerable, and being vulnerable is allowing yourself t

Human evolution does not occur at the same rate or under the same conditions as one another. The interpretations or meanings that people give to particular situations or occurrences vary from person to person, just like life experiences do. What is comfortable is what we cling to. Because we cling s

Ask any woman in America if they’ve been played, and I can guarantee you at least 97% of them would tell you yes. I’m your host, Lane, and welcome to getting played 101. Men: they need to get their act together!  Let’s start off by saying if a man will not give your relationship a title and call you

To claim that I am affluent means that I have a significant amount of money or assets. But when I say I'm wealthy, I don't mean in a billion-dollar sense. I am rich in people. I am rich in love. In every manner that matters, I am wealthy. But when I proclaim "I am wealthy," I am merely undermining m

Healing is not linear. There’s no time frame on healing. Everyone heals at different rates. For some people healing is quick while others it’s more of a drawn out process. Give yourself as much time as you need to properly heal. There will be days where you wake up and feel as though your heart has

Quality will always be the better option than quantity, whether any of us would like to admit it or not. You won’t remember your life by the number of friends you had. Quantity will remain just a number and there’s no amount of number that will lead you to the happiness that you seek. I, personally,

Being alone vs. Feeling alone- a juxtaposition. Being alone is a state of being while feeling alone is an emotional feeling of loneliness and isolation, even in a group of people. Being alone isn’t a negative thing. It allows us to reflect, to appreciate ourselves and our being. Loneliness is often,

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about the extreme spectrum of a roller coaster I've experienced throughout my life. I've had my years where I was on the bathroom floor sobbing and screaming, convinced that I wasn’t going to make it past that night. Occasionally, life was quite quiet and calm, but s

Make peace with what didn’t happen. What wasn’t there for you, wasn’t meant for you. Over the course of my life, I have always felt pressured to conform to someone tolerant. It was always better to keep the peace than to start an argument. And in some cases, I agree. It's okay occasionally to keep t

To say that I, an eighteen-year-old, have accepted and understood the full concept and emotional stages of grief would be foolish. However, I have suffered a great deal of loss in my life and have endured a significant amount of suffering as a result of it. Each person's experience with grieving the

I sincerely believe that if you find the right person, the timing will never be wrong. For the right person, it will always be the right time. No matter what, your person will stick by you. Through the good, the bad, the ugly- their presence will be assured. While there may be some exceptions to thi

Personally, I genuinely believe that it doesn't matter how you got to this point as long as you're happy. If you had to stop communicating with pessimistic individuals, that is entirely acceptable. If prioritizing yourself over others allowed you to persist and ultimately find happiness, I am so gla

The world is a better place with you in it. I’ll say it time and time again because it’s true, you’re meant to be here. Yes, it gets better. Yes, it starts hurting less. Eventually, you move on. Trust me when I tell you that these are not empty words. It took a lot for me to be able to say them with

What if, and hear me out, people DO love you. There’s a coworker who loves when they get to work a shift with you, even if you don't talk. You have a cousin who's relieved when they see you at family gatherings, someone who looks to you as their "cool cousin" in silence. The classmate who believes y

It's impossible to avoid change. While we can all try to escape it, ultimately change occurs and we must adapt to it. Many of us have this ingrained anxiety that change is this terrible, awful thing because it is unknown. We, as humans, rather know what’s coming, what to expect. Change is a difficul

Your love isn’t “too much,” it has always been enough. But you’re giving your all to the wrong people and that’s why you keep getting hurt. You’re ability to love comes from within you, you can love deeply because you’re you. Don’t pour yourself into people who don’t pour themselves into you. Find n

Sometimes, you’ll have a couple of good days. and then it hits you. Everything. It hurts to talk, to love, to be. Existing is so difficult at times but no one wants to hear that. No one wants to know about the days you spend crying or curled up in a corner somewhere or wishing you could be anywhere

I genuinely do not believe that people treat you the way they feel about you. I believe that what people say and do to you is simply just a projection of their own reality and insecurities. Some people unintentionally hurt you because they’re at war with themselves and they’re suffering with things

I squandered my adolescent years trying to restrain myself into smallness, since I never knew anything else. My body feels out of place, I kept shrinking under the harsh light of a gaze that does not belong to me. I watched as my body was picked at and reduced to whatever beauty standards were trend

You should be aware that you truly are enough for everyone. But most significantly, you need to be desirable for yourself. You are the longest and most significant relationship that you’ll ever have, I know that sounds corny. It can be challenging at times to love yourself, and it might even take co